Another one of the topics pastors and churches would rather not preach in church because of its controversial nature but we can’t keep a blind eye on what’s happening in our culture today. A friend of mine said that in one of the public schools in the Philippines they at least 4 out of 10 are homosexuals. How come nobody is talking about it except Rustom Padilla?
So here are my uncensored thoughts on homosexuality:
1. The church should never bash homosexuals. Christ has called us to love people – even homosexuals. Homosexuality should never be categorized as a special sin. A hot tempered man is a sinner, a glutton is a sinner, a sexual pervert is a sinner. Don’t think that homosexuality is a SIN of its own. We must love homosexuals and lovingly confront and help them.
2. Most of my homosexual friends have a troubled past. Some people are homophobic because they never heard the story. I was such in the past but when I started hearing the stories of my friends it breaks my heart. I received a phone call years ago from a close friend who recounted to me how his dad played him. I was in tears after the conversation and could only utter “God why would anybody do that to his own son?”
The roles of the father is very crucial. Manhood is imparted by the Fathers. We are living in a fatherless generation. There is no true model of biblical manhood so don’t expect to see MEN to act like real MEN if nobody is going to impart it to them. I recommend for every man to read “WILD AT HEART” to fully understand what I am blogging here. Dads, it is time to step it up and be like real men and father our kids.
If you are struggling with homosexuality, it would be great if you surround yourself with godly men who can help you and coach you spiritually, emotionally and physically.
3. Homosexuality is a SIN. I know this might offend some of you but I have to clearly paint what the Bible says. Nobody is born a homosexual. No baby comes out of the womb and cries Uh- wah, uh wah. Homosexuality is a choice. As much as a traumatic past can be a good reason to be homosexual it does not excuse us from choosing not to be. A good friend of mine who is now courting a girl admitted in the past that he had this tendency to be attracted to the same sex because when he was young his uncle molested him but it did not became an excuse for him to practice homosexuality. By God’s grace, he made a decision to be a MAN because God made him one.
4. Don’t believe the lies.
Once a homosexual, will always be one or it’s in my genes. No conclusive study has been made about this.
The Bible is clear. Hope can be found in Jesus. Don’t think your sin is too big to overcome. You have a story to tell. A story of hope and restoration. A story that Jesus can make you be the MAN you ought to be.
I like this one. I also have few friends who are struggling with their sexuality. It is true that as Christians, we need to learn to hear their story. According to one article, the reason why Oprah Winfrey is so successful is because “she knows how to listen.” Thanks for the write-up Pastor Sy.
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Ahia Dennis! I like how you speak your mind and beliefs with a very straightforward attitude and with wisdom. Indeed masturbation and homosexuality are a very open-closed subject nowadays. Its a hard topic to open specially to the public but very prevalent in the society today. I’ve followed your blog because of ahia and I’ve been learning lots from your posts! I praise God for your courage to speak and patience to teach and passion to let us youth know what we should know, do and practice as a growing Christian. Thanks for the great insights and lessons ahia Dennis, God Bless!
i agree, it’s a choice..i have a half-sister who is a lesbian, but it’s only on her junior years when she realized that, she hasn’t forgiven our father yet..for the wrong choices in the past..that resulted into broken relationships and she being the unwanted child.. But God said, we all have a purpose..she rebelled on the fact that she did not grow up on a normal family, with an authority of a mother and a father to speak over her life..another factor is peers, choice of friends.. When she studied on a “exclusive for girls” school wherein those girl to girl relationships we’re accepted as a norm, it became worse. No matter how i reach out to her, she still chose to be that way..i can sense that unforgiving heart is also one factor.. we we’re used to be battered child..and suffered through our own father’s hand…but I came to know God and the rest is history.. We are constantly changing, and God’s work in us is not yet finished..sabi nga ng kanta..”BINABAGO N’YA AKO ARAW-ARAW”..so we continue to pray that on God’s perfect time, everyone in my family will come to know “BRO” and have a personal relationship with Him..It’s very encouraging to know that you have this blogs to re-inform church people how to handle issues like this with care..with more love..more understanding..God bless Ptr.Dennis, keep it up. May God continue to use you mightily.
love the series….keep blogging.
There are a few cases i know that a person became a homosexual at an adult age because they got into a circle of homosexuals. Some young homosexuals i interviewed told me that they became one because they saw homosexuals being very happy and funny to be with. However the case maybe, homosexuality is indeed acquired not of birth but of influence and experience. You’re boldness will fulfill the gospel pastor dennis. more power from the Holy Spirit!
Homosexuality, like other (sexual) sins, ought to be recognized first and foremost for what it is: an ABHORRENCE to God. And that the lifestyle is diametrically opposed to the whole idea of a Holy God calling HIS people to a life lived in holiness. We must also recognize the language at which this type of sin is regarded by God; to put it bluntly, He is “gagged” by this whole notion. To appropriately describe it in “Tagalog”, “NASUSUKA si Lord sa mga ganitong kasalanan.” The Bible calls these type of sins an absolute ABOMINATION to the whole being of God.
Having said that, we must also recognize that HE loves the sinner. Our finite minds are able to barely comprehend the the full extent and significance of the work He accomplished through Christ, some 2000 years ago. — While it might be hard NOT to engage the natural mind about the offense of homosexuality, Christians are reminded that we are commissioned to do only ONE THING: To LOVE the sinner with the love of God in Christ. Christians are to love WITHOUT RESERVATION… that we are to NEVER pronounce personal judgements…
But, here is where we sort of “stumble” in the process…
Do we, or can we, as the Church, talk about the love of God WITHOUT talking about the wrath of God? — Is Godly “love” not “wrath”? Is Godly “wrathing” part of Godly “loving”?
I personally believe that confronting the homosexual INVOLVES giving him or her the WHOLE UNADULTERATED truth of (the word of) God. To do otherwise would not be confronting the sinner “in love”. — In other words, it is “LOVING” to tell him or her about what God thinks of their sin AND lifestyle.
At the end of the day, this whole business is NEVER about the sinner – homosexual or not – but rather, about who God is. In Ezekiel, we are reminded as God spoke to the Israelites through the prophet, that it was not for their sake that the Lord was renewing them, but for His name’s sake.
In confronting the sinner – homosexual or not – it remains our solemn duty as the Church to share God’s WHOLE truth, and allow God’s Holy Spirit to work on their hearts. But just as Jesus, on His way to Jerusalem, bypassed His very own hometown because of their unbelief and unrelenting disobedience, we must continue to move and carry on with the harvest. Disseminating a half-truth is just as abhorrent to God.
Homosexuality, like other (sexual) sins, ought to be recognized first and foremost for what it is: an ABHORRENCE to God. And that the lifestyle is diametrically opposed to the whole idea of a Holy God calling HIS people to a life lived in holiness. We must also recognize the language at which this type of sin is regarded by God; to put it bluntly, He is “gagged” by this whole notion. To appropriately describe it in “Tagalog”, “NASUSUKA si Lord sa mga ganitong kasalanan.” The Bible calls these type of sins an absolute ABOMINATION to the whole being of God.
Having said that, we must also recognize that HE loves the sinner. Our finite minds are able to barely comprehend the the full extent and significance of the work He accomplished through Christ, some 2000 years ago. — While it might be hard NOT to engage the natural mind about the offense of homosexuality, Christians are reminded that we are commissioned to do only ONE THING: To LOVE the sinner with the love of God in Christ. Christians are to love WITHOUT RESERVATION… that we are to NEVER pronounce personal judgements…
But, here is where we, the church, sometimes sort of “stumble” in the process of “loving”…
Question: Do we – or can we – as the Church, talk about the love of God WITHOUT equally talking about the wrath of God? — Is Godly “love” not “wrath”? Or, is Godly “wrath” an integral part of Godly “loving”?
I personally believe that confronting the homosexual INVOLVES giving him or her the WHOLE UNADULTERATED truth of (the word of) God. To do otherwise would not be confronting the sinner “in love”. God loves perfectly. But He also hates perfectly. They are both consistent with the overall character of God. — In other words, it is “LOVING” to tell him or her about what God thinks of their sin AND lifestyle.
At the end of the day, this whole business is NEVER about the sinner – homosexual or not – but rather, about who God is. In Ezekiel, we are reminded as God spoke to the Israelites through the prophet, that it was not for their sakes that the Lord was renewing them, but for the good of His name’s sake.
In confronting the sinner – homosexual or not – it remains our solemn duty as the Church to share God’s WHOLE truth, and allow God’s Holy Spirit to work on their hearts. But just as Jesus, on His way to Jerusalem, bypassed His very own hometown because of their unbelief and unrelenting disobedience, we must dust ourselves off, and continue to move and carry on with the harvest. We must never forget that disseminating half-truths is just as abhorrent to God./cge
we supposed to be like bb gandang hari she is a great person just like rickky martin while ago she was admit that he was a gay then congratulatinos
Perhaps Chill Esperat has views on bigamy…
I am very upset as a Christian that you would imply in your blog post that homosexual men are NOT real men. I would also like to say as a gay MAN that I did not choose to be this way, why would I choose to live a life that is full of hatred towards me? Why would I choose to have my family and most of my friends hate me for who I am? Also the word that is translated as homosexuality in the word of God is not what the original greek actually means. You are all just a bunch of bigots that have not truly studied their “manual for life”.
@john, sorry to upset you. I did heard of the argument on the greek word but up until now no one has given me the real greek meaning of it. Hope I could be enlightened.
Well first of all I would like to give you this quote from a pastor friend of mine.
“Jesus and the gospels never mention homosexuality, and while that fact and
the infrequent reference to homosexuality in the Bible as a whole suggest
that homosexuality is not a major ethical or moral concern of scripture, there
are many things which Jesus and the gospels never mention which Christians
would find morally repugnant in our own day. There are also many things
never mentioned in the Bible which Christians find morally acceptable and
still others prohibited by scripture which most Christians nevertheless accept
today.”
And now for the fun part. Like the ancient Hebrew language, the ancient Greek has no word for homosexual orientation as we know it today. Mostly what it should have been translated to is “pederasty”, not homosexuality.
If you would like a copy of the article that I am finding all of this from I would be happy to email it to you.
Sure John, email me @ dennis2059@yahoo.com
I am shocked dennis at how you hold a very ignorant, and prejudice belief of gays.
I’ve done my biblical research, one thing to know is never take the bible at face value.
Originally there was no such word in the bible that refered to gays,bis, homos, etc.
Those word (homosexuals, homosexuality) are 19th cent. terms that later were unknowing replace with some word- the scholars are not sure what it actually meant, but there certain homosexuality wasn’t one of them.
And the connection between gays and not having good fathers is proven to be false.
Just like gays are at higher risk of AIDS, HIV are another lie from the 80′s – which people at that time were on anti-gay wagon. It amazing at how with the knowledge of the modern day and its technology society still lives with an ignorant mindset.
Taylor: The bible talks about porneia in Greek. Which covers all sorts of sexual sins and check Romans 1 if you think that God is unaware of homosexuality. That said making homosexuality worse than other sexual sins is just as bad as the Pharisees and Sadducees.
It is unnecessary to believe that attraction between persons of the same sex, and even relationships between such persons, automatically involves defiling their bodies, which is the only true sin in this context. Men loving men or women loving women and living together in love is not sinful. Ironically, what is likely a contributing factor to sexual sin is not recognizing what Jesus said in Matthew about marriage not being for everyone. Instead, when we close our understanding to that, we place people “who are born eunuchs” into the hands of ones who would defile them and confuse them.
you said it right that being a homosexual is not a sin.. but homosexuality is… one will not be homosexual if he/she doesn’t engage in homosexuality right?.. confused…
@pampam
thanks for your comment but would like to clear that I never said that homosexuality is not a sin what I said was that homosexuality should not be treated as a special sin because it is not. Hope that clears the confusion
@John, just a comment. I once believed in that fact of yours about the Greek word arsekenotoi, right? But I’ve realized that having same sex relationships is not normal because men are not designed to be with men. The anal is not designed to be a reproductive organ. The mouth is not designed to be a reproductive organ. Plus, I believe that homosexuals became homosexuals because of little incidents. You may not realize it but if you really looked into your past, you may just see the reason why you are what you think you think you are.
Yes. Okay. Let’s say that homosexuality is something normal. But that doesn’t mean it’s right. A very good analogy that I once thought of:
—— Smoking cigarettes is now considered to be normal but that doesn’t make it right. It’s still wrong since it deteriorates your health.
I’m an 18-yr. old and I WAS struggling with my homosexuality. At first, I’ve reasoned out that this is not a choice because who would want to be mocked by everyone because of your homosexuality or choose a life without someone to grow old with. But this question also applies to God. Will this kind of life be the life God will choose for you or for any homosexuals? Of course not. Only the devil will. Only the devil would want you to be mocked or live a life without some to grow old with.
Sorry, correct me if I mentioned anything wrong. Or if I’ve written something offensive.
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